Raise your hand if you've been in a long distance relationship. -raises hand- Now, raise your hand if you believe long distance relationships CAN work. -raises hand- Why do people feel like they can't? I mean I know that the normal relationship is hard enough, without adding having to schedule in trips to see somebody but if you feel like he/she is really worth it, why not? Especially if we're talking about neighboring city long distance relationships. I've been in a few long distance relationships...one a Dayton/Cincinnati, one a Dayton/Toledo, && one a Texas/Ohio [[I know, Texas is far as the feezy right?]]. Now, none of them failed because of the distance per say, but inevitably it was probably a factor. Two of the afore mentioned gentlemen cheated on me. [[I love when people think that I'm not gonna find out because you live in a different city/state. You don't know who I know. Believe me, I'll find out. Every time.]] And the 3rd...well he's just selfish. Imagine this. You've been dating for over a year and half. You only stayed in the same city for about 4 months of this whole relationship mind you, even though you had plans on coming back. Once you decided you weren't going back, it was already past a year into the relationship. But all of the sudden the relationship isn't working? I know you had your heart set on us being together in the same city, but if what we have right now is working, and our relationship is still solid, intracity or not, why would you be willing to throw all of that away? I need to do whats best for me. If you can't support me trying to better myself, then do you really love me like you say you do? I supported you when you had a war with your parents and got your silly ass kicked out on the streets...I even found you a place to stay! You say you wanna marry me, but you can't work through another year or so of staying 45-50 minutes away from me? I don't understand. You've already BEEN doing this. So why stop now? Maybe its because people throw the word "love" around too loosely. I may be 20 but I know how I feel and I know if I'm in love with you or not. I was never that girl "in lust" with someone new every week. If I'm with you, I'm with you and I'm ridin for you. It is what it is. If you're mad because you thought we were gonna be living together, then you need to re-evaluate things brotha. Shoot, cuz if I ever shacked up before I graduated, my parents would surely stop paying my tuition, and I'm cool on that! hahaha. No seriously tho. I mean, if you are only staying an hour away, and you truely love this person, wouldn't you just keep on working it out like you have been for the past year and some? Maybe I just love too hard. I guess thats why the relationship failed.....Until next time.
Personally, I keep very few females in my inner circle. They are grimey, drama-ridden, etc etc etc. So with that, I have a lot of male friends. It's something I bring to the attention of any man that tries to get at me, at the beginning of the courtship. If you can't handle that, then we can't be together. The guys in my life that I say are just friends, are exactly that, just friends. So why is it that people think men and women can't be friends? Why can't I be friends with my ex? He is my past [[PAST]] and the romantic part of our relationship is done and over. There are obviously qualities about him that I liked since I dated him, so if we ended on good terms, why wouldn't I want to remain friends? And why, as my boyfriend, should that bother you? If I put everything out in the open why do you have anything to be worried about? If there are no signs that its anything more than a friendship, what does it matter?
Is it your personal insecurities that make you wary of the other gentleman in my life? Do you not trust me? Or is that you don't trust them....? I always say that if you don't trust them, you don't trust me. I trust them because I'm friends with them, and I feel like they respect our relationship, so that should be enough for you. As a man, do you want to get at every female in your life? And if you did think she was bad when you 1st met her, and you found out she was just cool as hell, you left at that right? So why can't it be the same thing for me?
I just prefer to kick it with men because for the most part they are so laid back. The ones I keep in my life are spectacular and they keep me laughing when I'm sad. They put a finger under my chin and lift my head up when I'm disappointed. They are there to listen when whoever I'm dating pisses me off. Personally, I'm a nigga at heart sometimes. Me and my best friend have always said that about ourselves, especially because we were dummy tomboys in our younger years. We run, hang, and cut people up with the best of them. So I like to be around people who are on my level, and that just happens to be dudes for the most part. I like to get their opinion on things and their perspectives on whats happening with whomever or whatever. Is that a crime? Apparently.
Soooo Jamie Foxx's new song "Just Like Me". Catchy lil tune. I can dig it. But it made me think. I say this all conceitedness aside, the few females I choose to keep around me are bad, and I know that. Listening to this song, just the chorus alone, made me think of my ladies.
You’re just like me Shorty all up in the club Popping bottles of that Bud Giving all them dudes hugs
That last line especially. I mean I can't even count how many times we've gotten mugged because we gave some nigga in the club a hug, like back back lady it ain't even that serious. But I'm sayin all that to say this...to the men in my life...could you REALLY handle a female who's just like you? I mean, men hold women to double standards a lot, and don't even realize it. It's ok for you to look at that chick's ass as she walks by but if I smile at a dude you get mad? No, no my brotha! Me && my girl Champ were havin a convo once about men in our lives who are friends, and they act JUST alike relationship wise. Their problem is that dudes try to get at us all the time and they don't like it, as if we can help that. Her friend went as far to tell her that she's boring, not that bad, and her swag is lame. But he's gettin all emotional on her, mad at her, and STILL tryin to wife her. Why would you get mad if dudes are tryin to get at your girl, as long as it doesn't escalate? Wouldn't you want a bad chick? I mean seriously though, if you think I'm cute, that means someone else will. Its not as if I walk around with a sign on my forehead sayin "get at me!!!" At the same time, females are just as thirsty as dudes these days and try to get at dudes whether they have a girl or not. So I'm gonna get mad because a female thought you were fine, or liked your swag? I KNOW you're fine and I KNOW you have a raw swag cuz I'm with you, talking to you, whatever the case may be. However, if you knew I was in the club or wherever talkin to dudes the way you talk to females when I'm not around would you be ok with that? If I flash "that" smile at a dude the way you drop a line to a chick, would you really be able to handle that? How many men are really ready to handle a chick with game, word swag I like to call it, cuz I don't play games. And with that.....Until next time.
miss - a title of [[respect]] prefixed to a woman's name or position.
I'm from Dayton so I [[swaggy bow]] and [[dougie]] quite often. But I went to school in Cincinnati so don't be surprised when I jug! Basically....I'm random. But you love it. [[or you will!]]
